“DO YOU KNOW ANYONE WHO WORKS HERE?”

by Willette Coleman ©2014

When you prepare for a job interview, consider prepping for unexpected questions.  “Do you know anyone who works for us?” is one of those unanticipated queries and can seem a bit tricky.  Sean Haggard says his “…skin becomes a little clammy,” when he thinks “about this job interview question.”   

If you get the "willys" too, empower yourself by, first, reviewing the company’s nepotism  policy.  It might be posted on their website.  In the interview, you might wonder:  

Are They Judging My Character?

Yes.  They're gauging whether you’ll be truthful and whether you have the same or similar traits as the person you know at the company.  If the person is an excellent employee, you might be also.  On the other hand, if the person has regressive and infantile behaviors, is an undercover alcoholic, overt bully, or slacker, they might wonder: “Ye too Brutus [or Brutusa]?” 

The Person I Know is a Poor Employee; Nobody likes him/her.

Clearly it’s good to know a person who is an excellent employee.  On the other hand, knowing an employee with unacceptable work habits and behavior may depend on the depth of your relationship.  If the person is a distant acquaintance, say so.  If, in your mind, you say:  “That’s my girl or homeboy,” even relative, then, “Houston,” you could have a situation.  In a close relationship, no doubt you know about your friend’s or relative’s short comings.  In the minds of most people, you approve of (and may be a part of) any bad behavior, by association.  But, you may NOT approve; you’ve even made copious attempts at helping him/her improve.  If the interviewer says there have been some concerns, briefly, share your intervention efforts.  

The rules on hiring acquaintances, friends and/or relatives differ from employer to employer.  While one interviewer might consider your association with a troubled employee beneficial, in that you could be a good influence, another interviewer might fear you’ll only compound the problem.  Employers want to minimize workplace conflict.   

Haggard recommends you “stay neutral” and “… do not say anything negative about the other person, even if the interviewer does.”  He offers this sample response:

“Carla [or Carl]  and I are friends, but I know she [he] has had some difficulties at this company, and I don’t always agree with her [his] work ethic.” 

It’s best to keep the interviewer focused on you and convince her/him that you’re capable of separating your professional life and your personal life, and that you are a focused, task-oriented individual.  Again, preparation helps you dispel any fear energy around unexpected questions, along with taking 3 deep belly-breaths. 

Remember:  Integrity counts; keep it simple; keep it honest. 

Thanks for reading,

Magic, Miracles & Blessings,

Willette